Have you ever found yourself in a situation when you feel like shouting once you’ve reached the cracking point? If you’re talking about your point-of-view as a parent, trust me, many of us have been there. Our reasons for doing so can be one point in an endless list – tired from work, pressured from social peers, stressed with daily obligations, struggling with the technological era, etc. Is it really possible to keep our sanity intact with today’s generation?
Hal Runkel is the author-slash-therapist behind this guide entitled “Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool”. Here, he reiterates that it is impossible if we want our children to maintain a certain behavior based on our standards. Concluding that if we keep up with this kind of parenting, not only do we drive ourselves crazy but our kids as well, and they are more prone to go off the opposite direction.
The book emphasizes that any forms of yelling won’t solve anything. It will only make our children go deaf. Instead of raising our voices, it’s much better to lower our voices, keep calm and be reasonable when addressing our children. Through this, we are able to get what we want and guide our children into the right path. In order for them to achieve the results that we want, we have to facilitate our children into being creative and independent when it comes to solving their own problems and realizing the consequences of their decisions. This book teaches us to think about ourselves first and how to handle with our own thoughts and feelings before addressing our child. When we ourselves are calm, we are able to think clearly, solve our own problems and respond in a much more positive light.
The book is written in a way that all parents can relate to. It doesn’t have the seriousness that other self-help books have. It entertains readers with its light humor. It doesn’t fill us up with ideas on how to fulfil our innermost wishes and desires for our children, but helps us realize along the way by getting straight to the point. Stories and real-life experiences can make us realize that all parents share a common factor in their lives that makes one entirely not different from other parents. Each chapter focuses on a particular theme/s and ends with self-reflection questions that make us think about our own situation and how we can approach it.
“Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool” is a real eye opener and one that is nonsensical. It has parents, like my husband and I, reaching out for it. It’s a quick read and you’ll have a hard time putting it down even if you have a busy schedule. If there’s one thing that I learned is that parenthood is not about being right, but it’s in the way of how you approach problems. The attitude that you bring about will mold the kind of children you have – not perfect but close to perfection based on what is morally right.
Rating: 4.5 stars out of 5