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9/10
Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool
Communication , Decision Making / February 2, 2016

Have you ever found yourself in a situation when you feel like shouting once you’ve reached the cracking point? If you’re talking about your point-of-view as a parent, trust me, many of us have been there. Our reasons for doing so can be one point in an endless list – tired from work, pressured from social peers, stressed with daily obligations, struggling with the technological era, etc. Is it really possible to keep our sanity intact with today’s generation?

Hal Runkel is the author-slash-therapist behind this guide entitled “Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool”. Here, he reiterates that it is impossible if we want our children to maintain a certain behavior based on our standards. Concluding that if we keep up with this kind of parenting, not only do we drive ourselves crazy but our kids as well, and they are more prone to go off the opposite direction.

The book emphasizes that any forms of yelling won’t solve anything. It will only make our children go deaf. Instead of raising our voices, it’s much better to lower our voices, keep calm and be reasonable when addressing our children. Through this, we are able to get what we want and guide our children into the right path. In order for them to achieve the results that we want, we have to facilitate our children into being creative and independent when it comes to solving their own problems and realizing the consequences of their decisions. This book teaches us to think about ourselves first and how to handle with our own thoughts and feelings before addressing our child. When we ourselves are calm, we are able to think clearly, solve our own problems and respond in a much more positive light.

The book is written in a way that all parents can relate to. It doesn’t have the seriousness that other self-help books have. It entertains readers with its light humor. It doesn’t fill us up with ideas on how to fulfil our innermost wishes and desires for our children, but helps us realize along the way by getting straight to the point. Stories and real-life experiences can make us realize that all parents share a common factor in their lives that makes one entirely not different from other parents. Each chapter focuses on a particular theme/s and ends with self-reflection questions that make us think about our own situation and how we can approach it.

“Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool” is a real eye opener and one that is nonsensical. It has parents, like my husband and I, reaching out for it. It’s a quick read and you’ll have a hard time putting it down even if you have a busy schedule. If there’s one thing that I learned is that parenthood is not about being right, but it’s in the way of how you approach problems. The attitude that you bring about will mold the kind of children you have – not perfect but close to perfection based on what is morally right.

Recommendation

Rating: 4.5 stars out of 5

http://www.amazon.com/Screamfree-Parenting-Revolutionary-Approach-Raising/dp/0767927435

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7.5/10
The Parenting Survival Kit: How to Make it Through the Parenting Years Review
Decision Making , Relationship Building / January 19, 2016

Written by Aleta Koman, this book gives an interesting insight on becoming a parent and how to tackle the ups and downs of parenthood. There are many factors that parents face on a daily basis, which can make life not that easy. This is probably why parents easily become stressed juggling worlds of both family life and work. This is probably why many may consider parenthood as a daunting task especially in today’s modern world. However, with the right attitude towards experimenting with a number of different approaches towards it, no parent will be left behind. Parents ask a million questions whether their parenting methods are right or wrong. No one wants to sacrifice their sanity when dealing with children with different personalities and attitudes.

This book is written in such a way where parents need to realize that their expectations and reality among their children are two different things. Sometimes, there’s a tendency of blurring those lines together and creating an unhealthy balance between the two. This book focuses on gaining a healthy understanding on the entire idea of parenthood and how realistic your approach to it is. It can be somewhat classified as a self-help book, but it’s also more of a guide on how to better approach your children in an assertive but caring way. After all, as a parent, you’ll need to grasp the fundamentals of parenthood so that you can raise children as independent individuals who will be ready to tackle almost everything that life has to offer them.

The topics that are found in this particular book are holistic as they look into every aspect of parenthood. If you have any questions regarding certain things, it is most likely that you will find the right answers in this book. There are also a lot of interesting topics that match today’s world such as children and technology as well as on how you should discipline your children. There are also sensitive topics that are discussed since they are existent within today’s society. One of them includes the topic of divorce that some parents do face in this generation.

The book is very real and has a sensible approach towards parenthood. The author of the book hardly uses euphemisms as she is direct when approaching certain ideas that parents might have not considered. This reason can be linked to the fact that Koman is a child and family therapist and has had experience in dealing with such events in relation to her clients. This is probably why the book can speak out to you on so many ways those other books of similar topic fail to do.

Other than that, this book includes valuable resources that parents can explore into, which makes it a handy source for all your parenting concerns. This reference can be the book you can turn to no matter what kind of child-rearing concern you currently have.

Recommendation

Rating: 4 stars out of 5

http://www.amazon.com/The-Parenting-Survival-Kit-Through/dp/0399525807

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8.5/10
Relax, It’s Just God Book Review
Decision Making , Religion / January 3, 2016

A few couple decades ago, being religiously unaffiliated was taboo. Children were raised on their knees, with eyes shut tightly and hands clasped together in fervent prayer. However, in a world where liberalism is on the rise and religious affiliation is on a sleepy decline, comes the emergence of a new generation of parents: the seculars. The question then shifts from, “How do I teach my child about God?” to “How do I educate my child about the gods?” In her book Relax, It’s Just God, Wendy Thomas Russel talks about raising open-minded and tolerant children in a world where the belief in a deity is still somewhat of a social necessity.

Book Overview

With this book being undeniably well-written, Russel proves to be a talented writer. She takes on a slightly humorous yet scholarly approach to a sensitive and controversial topic whilst still maintaining a compassionate tone. Meant for non-religious parents who wish to teach their kids about religion, this book is written in a neutral and unbiased perspective that neither promotes nor trashes religious views. The book is infused with scientific thoughts, research, and the author’s own personal experiences in an attempt to properly explain concepts and ideas to the readers in an easy and comprehensible manner. The author focuses on acceptance, tolerance, and education and emphasises that religious belief is the child’s choice and the parents’ role is simply to inform the child on the matter as best as they could.

Different Chapters and Topics Covered

One of the topics in this book that stands out is the chapter on dealing with supposedly well-meaning religious relatives concerned about the secular lifestyle of the family. Russel talks about keeping an open yet kind communication with these family members. Russel also talks about making sure that the child realises that religion is a choice and choosing whether or not to believe in one does not make other people candidates for ridicule.

Many other important topics are covered in the book, including avoiding indoctrination, practising tolerance while staying protected from the intolerance of others, and explaining and talking to children about death without the comforts of religious imagery. It also tackles on general need-to-knows on a variety of major world religions and how to celebrate their holidays in a secular manner.

Bottomline

Although the author does point out that persecution tags along with the refusal – or inability – to submit and belong to a religious denomination, an assumption that when taught to children, may cause them to fear speaking their minds and standing up for their beliefs, she also encourages teaching children open-mindedness. Russel greatly emphasises that the belief, or lack thereof, in religion is not anyone’s choice but their own. She focuses on the importance of teaching children on how to respect the religious decisions of others and how to be the kind of parents not only raises a religiously literate individual, but also does not force their children into the blind indoctrination of either religion or atheism,

Recommendation

This book deserves a solid 5 out of 5.

Amazon Link:

http://www.amazon.com/Relax-Its-Just-God-Religious/dp/1941932002

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7/10
Parenting With Love and Logic Book Review
Decision Making , Relationship Building / September 4, 2015

Parenting is not an exact science and there is no certain way of handling kids. Mothers are often very fussed about how they would deal with their children. There are a number of everyday situations where parenting choices have a deep impact on a child’s psyche, personality and behavior and how the rest of the child’s life would turn out. With the role of a parent so important, knowing successful techniques of bringing up children always helps. Parenting with Love and Logic is a book which has been authored by the renowned writer Foster Cline and it looks to helps parents, especially mothers, in understanding their child’s psyche and in upbringing him/her in a manner that would set a good base for the child to grow from.

Main Idea/Focus of the Book

The book’s main focus lies in helping parents understand that their child is not someone who can be forced into doing anything. A lot of the parents take a strict approach to parenting because it often seems like that it is the only way which would work with children. There is a feeling among mothers that children make bad decisions on their own while since their brains aren’t developed enough to logically understand the point of the parents, enforcing decisions on the children is the best way to go about it. The book defies the entire concept and looks to give the parents solutions that would help them ensure that the children make their decisions on their own and end up making decisions that would prove beneficial for them.

The book discusses a number of ideas though the core focus of the book is on parents never letting their anger or disgust get the better of them in front of their children. The author, Foster Cline, is of the thought that if children are made responsible for their own actions, they would learn faster and would always stay in a better position to make their decisions when they would grow up. So, the approach suggested is to basically give the child two choices and each of the two choices should be acceptable for the parents. The child can then choose on his own and then shoulder responsibility for the decision too.

Pros

There are some great passages in the book and the detail with which the concept of the book is explained is wonderful. The idea that children should be responsible for their decisions and the idea that parents should deal with their children with love only and should never get angry are very well-explained. The book looks to instill an idea in parents that they are guides rather  than strict enforcers and thereby, their most important job is to put their child in the best possible state to fight the challenges of life on his/her own.

Cons

The main problem with the book is that while the ideas are terrific and well-explained, the practical examples leave a lot to be desired. Some of the examples are too harsh and actually go against the main idea presented by the book. On the other hand, some examples are too outlandish and it’s difficult to find them in real life.

The Bottom Line

The book is a great read for mothers and fathers with the main idea of the book being very inspiring.